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Letting Go — Why So Hard?
Why is letting go so hard? That’s a question asked a lot. Often it is due to our self-worth or self-image. Our past forms a significant part of our identity, and letting go feels like removing a part of who we are.
Fear of change
Even if something is no longer working, we don’t want to let go because we fear the change. We feel comfortable with what we know, and anything new is scary.
Letting go is a conscious decision. You have to decide not to keep bringing up the past because this is the only reason it exists. The now is real — everything else is a habitual construct of your imagination.
Feel Your Emotions
How often do you stuff your emotions down inside, never to be seen again? This is not healthy, and it does not allow us to move on. We can find triggers are formed, and rather than dealing with the emotion at the time, they arise elsewhere. Instead, take the time to go through feeling the emotions you have. Let yourself be angry, sad or afraid. These will pass, once they have you will be better able to move on as you have allowed them to be released. When we numb negative emotions, we also numb emotions we want to have. This means we reduce the enjoyment available to us in our lives
